The Real Job of the Mother of the Bride in Westminster, Maryland: 12 Tips That Actually Help
- crkrone46
- 2 days ago
- 5 min read
Your daughter's wedding day should be a celebration of love, laghter, and joy, not full of stress. Being the mother of the bride one of your jobs is to make sure your daughter enjoys her special day. As the owner of Montagu Meadows and a mother to daughters who recently were married, I took this responsibility very seriously. As the mother of the bride, you are not just showing up in a gorgeous dress and smiling for photos. You’re supporting your daughter through one of the biggest days of her life. And while that sounds magical (and it is), it also comes with a few behind-the-scenes responsibilities that can make all the difference.
Here’s a guide to the things that help before, during, and after the wedding.
Before the Wedding
1. Be Her Sounding Board, Not the Planner-in-Chief
She might ask for your opinion, or she might just want to vent. Be her sounding board. Let her lead. Offer support, not direction, unless she specifically asks for help making decisions. Reassure her that this is her day, and you want her to be happy. I also highly recommend hiring a coordinator so both of you can have a fun time the day of the wedding.
2. Ask: “How Can I Help?”
You might be asked to help with the guest list, address invitations, or go dress
shopping. Whatever it is, let her set the tone. Sometimes the biggest help is just being available and spending quality time with your daughter. Enjoy these special times.
3. Handle Your Guest List Respectfully
If the couple has given you a limit, honor it. Don’t sneak in last-minute invites or assume everyone from your book club is coming. Remember the wedding is for your daughter and her fiancé. It is not about you!
4. Be a Family Diplomat
If your family has some drama (and whose doesn’t?), do your part to smooth things over. Weddings can stir up old dynamics and be calm in the chaos. Everyone involved needs to remember what this day is about – LOVE and the joining of two families!
5. Coordinate Your Outfit with the Groom’s Mom
Traditionally, the mother of the bride chooses her dress first, then gives the groom’s mom a heads-up so she can pick something complementary. You do not want one mother to be in formal attire and the other mom to be too casual. Don’t match but do harmonize.
On the Wedding Day
6. Be Ready Early
Hair and makeup should be done well by the time the photographer arrives. That way, you’re not stressed, and you’re free to help your daughter with any last-minute needs. It is also a great time to enjoy watching your daughter have her hair and makeup done and enjoy a drink together.
7. Pack a “Mom Emergency Kit”
Trust us: this will come in handy. Include tissues, safety pins, breath mints, bobby pins, a small sewing kit, stain remover, Advil, and snacks. You’ll be a hero not only to your daughter but the rest of the bridal party.
8. Step Back from the Phone
Let the professionals capture the day. Take a few personal photos, sure but don’t experience your daughter’s wedding through a screen. Believe me, the day goes by fast enough. Take some time to take in the moment and enjoy being with your family and friends.
9. Be the Hostess with the Mostest
Float around the reception and make guests feel welcome, especially those who may not know many people. This takes the pressure off the bride and groom so they can enjoy their evening.
10. Toast, Dance, Celebrate
If you’re giving a toast, keep it warm, brief, and focused on love not on embarrassing stories. Then get out on the dance floor and celebrate! You set the emotional tone and make it joyful.
11. Trust your Wedding Coordinator
Hiring a coordinator might be the most underrated piece of advice. As the mother of the bride, you may want to plan, coordinate, and decorate your daughter’s wedding. Trust me, let the professionals do it. Your daughter should pick a coordinator that she trusts, gets along with and understands her vision. Enjoy your time being the mother of the Bride. Let someone else be in charge. It’s your time to spend quality time with your daughter not decorating and cleaning up. Have fun, laugh and dance the night away.
After the Wedding
12. Help with the Wrap-Up
There are always loose ends after the big day. Offer to take home gifts, décor,
food or anything else the couple needs help transporting. This small act is huge when they’re exhausted. Lastly encourage thank-you notes to guests.
At the heart of it, your job isn’t just logistical, it’s emotional. You’re her anchor. Her support system. Her calm in the storm. You’ve loved her through every stage of life, and now, you get to stand by her as she starts a new chapter. Every wedding has a hitch. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being present in the moment.
Our History, Your Love Story
Looking for a stunning affordable Maryland barn wedding venue? Consider touring Historic Montagu Meadows Wedding Venue located in the countryside of Carroll County, MD. Montagu Meadows offers full-size dream weddings with receptions and intimate/elopement packages. Our wedding venue offers a breathtaking setting with a team dedicated to making your wedding day perfect. Montagu Meadows has stunning gardens and serene water views, creating a picturesque backdrop
for unforgettable celebrations. We also proudly support the LGBTQ couples in a warm, inclusive environment. If you are looking for an elegant, rustic, and unforgettable wedding that is pet-friendly, contact us to schedule a tour.
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Location: Westminster, MD in Carroll County
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